I am re-posting articles that I had written for the site Domme Dose. Most of the articles aren't online anymore, so I decided to go ahead and put them up here.
I'd like to put an end to this idea, as it is complete and utter bullshit. Honestly, I'm writing this piece not just for those who aren't into findom who have a completely skewed idea of it - but for the subs who serve us, and the women who want to be financial dommes. I think it's important that subs know just how much work a Domme puts into her craft, and women who aren't willing to put in the work need to focus on other ventures.
Let Me try to break this down as easily as possible.
I am 100% responsible for the creation of all of My graphics, content, designs, pictures, videos, and more. I have had graphic subs in the past. I ended up just redoing everything they did because I can do everything better than they can. I design everything. I learned photoshop, I learned how to edit videos, learned html, SEO optimization, countless programs, how to host an ftp server/host My own files, and am currently in the process of figuring out how to instate a high-risk payment gateway/merchant account so that I can accept payments for a members-only site, because most of the companies which dommes go through to receive payments will take 30% or more of our profits.
There are many things that attracted Me to financial domination in particular. One of them is the fact that I don't want to objectify Myself. I am not going for get naked to you. I am not going to cater to your every fucked up fetish/desire/whatever. I only do what I enjoy doing. I also refuse to rely on My looks and body to make money. I plan on being a domme professionally even when I'm older. I think about the future, and not just about right now. I want to be seen as an intelligent and brilliant woman. I want to be worshipped and served because of that. Yes, physically I am gorgeous. I have an amazing body, and a beautiful face. I am more than just those things. My physical appearance does not determine who I am - and physical appearance alone is not grounds for worship, as our pop culture and media seem to completely ignore. I seek real financial slaves. I seek slaves that are going to be long-term, slaves who are going to worship Me the way that I deserve to be worshipped, and also the boy who is going to just spend money on My niteflirt/clip store and tribute randomly because hey - I love making money. I also have found that when I say I am just a domme on profiles, the sheer amount of messages I get from subs who think that I want to get them off/watch them on cam/let them watch Me on cam/meet them in person for free is ridiculous. Yeah right.
This brings Me to..... the reason I have a website. The reason I have a blog. The reason I learned SEO/advertising. This makes it so that I am easily found, am easy to contact, and give the slave enough information about Myself so that if they are looking for a Domme that is interested in something I am not into, no ones time is wasted. Despite the fact that I have posted all over the place My email address, links to buy My yahoo ID, how to buy My yahoo ID if you can't use any of the aforementioned payment systems, contact forms on My website, countless accounts I can be messaged through... I still receive mails from "subs" who say they have been trying to figure out how to contact Me for MONTHS. Despite the fact that I repeatedly state I will not get naked, I still receive emails like the one I did this morning requesting that I film a clip of Me shitting on the camera followed by "thanks hunn!!! muaahhhhhh!" Despite the fact that I say I am not here to just get you off and cater to your wanking bullshit, I received a niteflirt call this morning where the first thing out of the dumb fucks mouth was "hey so I'm just gonna jack off and listen to you." to which I said, "I'm not dealing with you," put the phone next to the TV and walked away. Fuck if I'm going to get this dumb fuck off by verbally humiliating him after he was so disrespectful.
If you look at highly successful Dommes you see - they put in work. They spend HOURS on cam, they have well put together websites, are easy to contact, are found virtually everywhere, and more. How do you think that happened? By sitting around on their asses and typing "uh give me moneyyy loser." and then trotting off to lay around on the couch eating snickers and playing video games, taking the occasional break to type into twitter, "WTF Y RNT U LOSERS GIVN ME MUNYYY????#
The same goes for a lot of My friends who I have told what I do. Yes, I love getting My friends into financial domination, but only after I make damn sure they aren't confused about what it is.
You make your own success. If you truly want to be successful at something, it's not going to happen just because you have a pretty face and a bitchy attitude.
And another thing - subs who think they can go without ever having to pay for our time. If all of the time I spend a week online as a Findomme were to be counted, I put in well over a normal 40 hour work week. I expect My time to be compensated. I am not just some lazy girl who is here thinking I can just get rich quick, or make a few bucks, or even big bucks, without having to do anything. That's bullshit - and even subs I've had for a long time have had this misconception.
It's funny, because most money slaves absolutely love the idea that a woman can just enjoy, relax, and do nothing while making money. Isn't that part of it?
I am a Domme full time. I do not have another job, don't want one, and I sure as hell don't need one. I make a good living as an online Domme. I'm sure as hell not complaining - but I think it's fucked up when subs/whoever say things like "oh, well if you want a good computer maybe you should think about getting a job! hahaha." Yeah. I do have a job. My computer is what I use to work on. I use it to write html for layouts on various sites, design websites, design graphics, edit videos, record videos (the ones you enjoy so much), do cam sessions, talk to your dumb ass, tweet, not to mention do all this while building long-term and deep relationships, psychologically invade minds, completely mind fuck, constantly humiliate, degrade, and completely control countless amounts of male submissives. Not only does it involve LEARNING a shit ton of stuff that I'm sure most of you have absolutely no clue how to execute/go about doing, but it also involves being highly brilliant, creative, talented, literate, and simply superior in so many ways. If I don't know how to do something you know what I do? I figure out how to do it even if takes days, weeks, or months. I don't ever let the lack of knowledge be an excuse not to do something. If I don't know how to do it, I learn it. Simple. If I never research or teach Myself how something is done, I will never be able to do it, and I hate having to rely on others to get shit done. No one will do anything I want better than I can do it.
I was not taught how to do anything. I did not have a mentor. I did not have a teacher. I taught Myself how to design websites, how to do html, how to edit videos, how to create advertisements, how to get My name out there, how to do absolutely anything I could ever want to put My mind to - and do it! I am most certainly an over-achiever. I do not believe in settling for anything less than what My vision of what I want is. I would rather work for something than settle for something less than if I had done it Myself. Don't even get Me started on ladies who think they can get into financial domination without having to lift a finger. I am more than happy to help women who are genuinely interested in the fetish/lifestyle and want to put the work in. I'm not interested in helping girls who don't want to do shit - because that's certainly no way to start anything if you want to do it right. I'm also not going to point fingers at Dommes or be a catty bitch towards My fellow ladies - financial domme or otherwise. I hated highschool, that's just one of the reasons why I started going to college full time when I was 14 years old. Fuck drama, that shit is below Me.
Back to what I was saying...
It's hard to be so brilliant/mentally capable of grasping ideas/having the ability to navigate the internet while so many of you don't. It seriously boggles the mind. I am constantly trying to remember that not only do I want to be well-spoken and articulate, but I need to keep in mind that the brain capacity of most of My readers/viewers is that of a mentally challenged three year old. And people who still have trouble with English (I AM NOT A TRANSLATOR/DICTIONARY/MIND READER/GOOGLE).
Let's recap.
- Financial Dommes (at least the good ones) are actually really intelligent, sophisticated, over-achievers who know their worth and aren't afraid to go for what they want.
- There is a damn good reason why you're paying for our time.
- We are smarter than you, and if you have a problem with Financial Dommes it is because you are incredibly jealous of the fact that we have what you don't.
- If you have a stupid question, there's probably an easily found answer.
- There is a reason why we make websites.
- Think before you speak, especially if you are about to make an ignorant and judgmental comment.
- I would be interested to see a successful findom who hasn't put in any work
I know this sounded like a total bitching rant. Yeah, it kind of was. However, I'm not unhappy with being a financial domme.... on the contrary, I wouldn't trade it for the world! I love being a Domme. I wouldn't have it any other way. I also don't like ever being viewed as unintelligent or lazy - those are two things that should not be celebrated, and are not to be looked up to. In this culture of absolute idiocy, where everything is dumbed down "for your viewing pleasure," where most every form of media is made in such a way that anyone with a brain will be rendered completely forgetful of the fact that they have one, where everyone wants what they want NOW and can't be bothered to wait or work for it, where most of our liberties have been stripped away without notice, this "give me convenience or give me death," society... it makes you wonder. It's easy to find an empty shell. They're everywhere. Dead eyes, vacant smiles, plastic faces, plastic hearts, plastic brains, everything in the now, no thoughts of the future.... It makes me sick. Why worship an empty shell? Why pretend to be an empty shell? Why not celebrate our intelligence instead of trying to mask it?
I love being worshipped and celebrated for My intelligence. You know what else? I enjoy actually living My life. Living it. Experiencing the world. Traveling. Getting to experience new cultures, new ideas, new streams of thought, ideas, concepts, people. Life. Celebrate life. Celebrate yourself as a domme. Celebrate your domme as a sub. Always be true to your essence, and the core of the person that is you.
Put in the work. There are no shortcuts, and no easy way to get to your ideal place in life. The same goes for being a successful financial domme. Certainly, you can put in virtually no work and make a few bucks. That's in no way a sustainable/reliable source of income to support yourself on. That's just supplementary. I'm not willing to settle for that. Set your goals high. Educate yourself. Learn how to do everything yourself and never rely on others to do the work for you. Women who are successful as financial dommes are generally brilliant, creative masterminds. Don't forget it.
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