sub-conscious influence

I am re-posting articles that I had written for the site Domme Dose. Most of the articles aren't online anymore, so I decided to go ahead and put them up here.

I was thinking the other day about conversations that normal unravel during the first contact with a slave. I generally ask them a lot of questions about who they are - but before I even do that, a lot of times they will make comments and almost try to give Me some sort of direction as to how to "deal" with them.

For instance, a submissive saying that they like being tricked, lied to, spoken nicely to, humiliated constantly, etc... These are all minor ways of either consciously or subconsciously trying to influence the Domme to treat them how they want to be treated - not how the Domme wants to treat them.

So let's say you're a submissive and you are interested in serving a Domme long-term. you feel a connection with Her through Her writings, clips, pictures, and whatever else you've been madly clicking around through the great abyss of the internet. Finally, you bite the bullet and contact Her - or maybe you do it impulsively and quickly without a second thought. What are you going to say to Her?

A lot of slaves have had lots of past experience with Dommes. They have an idea of what they're looking for, how they like being treated, and almost have a precise idea in their mind of who the Domme should be. 

Let's step back for a moment.

Is this right? Should the sub approach a Domme with the mold of who they want Her to be already in their mind? A lot of subs have served past Dommes who they loved who, for whatever reason, they do not serve anymore - and are looking for that same kind of treatment.

I'm going to use a very mild example here. I was talking with one of My subs the other day about how I was thinking about writing this article. I said, "I was thinking of writing something along the lines of subs trying to top from the bottom."

"Oh," the slave replied, "that has been hashed out so much. So many have written about that."

"Really?" I replied, "Well, how about when you first contacted Me and said that you liked to be spoken to nicely and be able to have a conversation regularly. That was, whether you realize it or not, you trying to control the way that I spoke to you, and treated you. Do you think that things would be the same if you hadn't said that, or do you think that this is just how I am normally? This *is* how I am normally, but you have to wonder whether or not it is genuine because you made that comment in a subconscious attempt to influence Me from the very beginning."

The slave began rapidly apologizing for the statement, and also admitted that it didn't think the subject had been touched too horribly much.

Honestly, I didn't care for the subs apologies and said that. It's not something I believe it was doing because it had that thought in mind. I believe it is habit. The subs who have been in the scene 5-20 years are the very worst at this. I am going to take an excerpt from something that a sub wrote for Me many months ago:

"See, my pattern for years was to meet a new Domme (young and new OR an established one) and “experience” her until I got bored, then move on to another.  Beyond that, if it was a newer Domme, I would “teach” Her things, but none could outsmart or outwit me, no matter how many years they had been doing this (although of course i let them THINK they could)…. maybe 30 or more, total, over the years.

But with Princess Chloe, amazingly, I never GOT bored!  1 month, 2 months, 3 months goes by and STILL i was helpless to Her wicked charms and insatiable need to utterly humiliate me on a regular basis.  Of course, it was clear that i finally had met a Domme (nevermind a YOUNG one) that could run intellectual circles around me.  She had me devoted to Her, even “convinced” me to go into chastity for Her and i was extremely content, however things were NOT PERFECT by any means.

And let me pause here for a moment to say that this blog post couldn’t be more REAL.  What i have said, and am about to reveal, is the 100% truth, and once You get to know Princess Chloe, you will understand!

See, i was the classic top-from-the bottom slave.  i always would say “but Princess, if You don’t meet my needs, this is not going to work…. can’t You just do this or do that for me?” And of course, many Dommes would do those things, some wouldn’t, but in either case, i would get bored, or frustrated, and leave them since there was always another Domme waiting around the corner.

Although leaving Her was MUCH HARDER than all the others, but after two tries, i finally did it.  Fine, to hell with HER if She won’t meet my needs (translation: do what i wanted Her to do, let me top from the bottom, let me manipulate Her, etc. etc.)  So i left…

i served a few other Dommes here and there for a couple weeks, but every time i saw that little yahoo pop-up box “Princess… is now online” i would stop whatever i was doing, even if i was in the middle of doing something for another Domme, and notice this nagging feeling deep inside me…. it was really the strangest thing.  Then i would open up one of Her pictures, or five, and crave Her wicked verbal abuse and oh-so-creative humiliation for a few minutes until it turned into frustration as i thought “why couldn’t She just do those things i wanted Her to, damnit!”

So finally i decided to email Her to see if maybe She had “come to Her senses” and of course, i was in for a surprise.  She basically mocked me, and stated  something to the effect of “yeah RIGHT retard, like I fucking want a needy and whiney idiot like you around anyways”….  and ended it with this: [quoted]

“…. there is no other Domme who can get inside of your mind like I can.

There is no other Domme who will ever be able to use you like I can…

abuse you like I can.

fuck you up like I can.

And you know how much you fucking like it.

you’re just an impatient little fuck who is too self-involved to know what’s REALLY best for him.”

And then She  basically told me to “fuck off” and have fun serving other Dommes while i cry myself to sleep thinking about HER.

Now at the time, as i read that, i thought to myself that i DID know what was best for me, and it WASN’T Her, and thought “yeah right, cry for some 22 year old concieted bitch, never!” and dismissed it… for a few days.  But Her words kept haunting me, and i DID think about Her as i fell asleep, and although i didn’t literally cry, i did feel this sick feeling in my stomach which grew stronger as the days went by (and if She had not ended up taking me back, the actual tears may have started by now!)

But anyways, i began to focus hard and long every day on WHY i wasn’t content serving Her.  And suddenly it hit me.  It was because i wanted to serve Her on my terms, not Hers, and Princess Chloe, of course,  does NOT put up with that.  But wtf, a new, young Domme is not supposed to understand any of this yet, or be that confident yet, or make statements and predictions about ME, a guy twice Her age, that… suddenly, were coming TRUE.  No other Domme could get inside my mind like Her, use me, abuse me, fuck me up like Her.  She was RIGHT (and i must point out, i never TOLD Her those things… i was “too strong” of a slave!)  But She just knew.  And She knew something else too.  i WAS impatient, i WAS self-involved, and i didn’t know what was REALLY best for me!  But, of course, She did.

Can You start to understand the deep levels that this young Princess penetrates your mind?  I swear, it almost feels like She has a real power, like She has your brain in the palm of Her hands, and just smiles as She pushes every submissive button She wants, and watches as you fall to your knees and crawl back to Her, desperate and completely humbled.  For me, having served as many Dommes as i have (and NEVER writing a blog entry such as this for any of them) it caught me completely off guard, and i felt about as helpless as i’ve ever felt in my entire life, and i am being DEAD SERIOUS!

And then i was broken.  i realized that it didn’t matter WHAT i used to want anymore, and that really all i wanted now was…. to just be HERS.  i “gave in” to Her.  i had no choice!  She gave me no other option!  It was Her way or NO way, and since NOT serving Her was not a possibility (yes, i NEED Her, i literally felt so helpless and sick, i couldn’t handle it anymore) that i was willing to give up every last ounce of control, and just deal with it.  But of course, now i had to humble myself and do the actual “crawling back” part (which not only included a very long letter of apology, begging, and self-defeating lines utterly humiliating myself, but also several hundred dollars of wishlist items!) And LUCKILY for tard, Princess took me back.  Of course, She reminded me several times how She “knew i would eventually come crawling back,” and laughed hysterically at how predictable i was.  But the funny thing is, only someone as amazing and brilliant as She COULD have made such a prediction, i mean i hadn’t done this for any Domme, ever, in 20 years!

Yes, She completely broke me down and re-assembled me, and i began to accept the fact that i would not be able to manipulate Her into doing anything SHE didn’t feel like doing.  There was no more topping-from-the-bottom (or trying to) and i just did what She ordered, took any attention She decided to give me, shut the fuck up and became an obedient, docile, puppet for Her.  It’s almost as if i stopped even thinking for myself, or at least of my own needs.  And finally, SHE became the only important force in my life.

And then i realized something… it started to feel GOOD, better than when i held onto much of the control in these relationships like i used to, and it totally surprised the hell out of me!  i have heard Dommes talk about “breaking down a slave” before but didn’t honestly think that was a literal thing, and certianly not a free-thinking, smart slave like myself.  i tell you right now, as God as my witness, this is exactly what She did to me.

So for any of you who underestimate this complicated and powerful Princess (i hate to sound corny using such a fiction word, but honestly, She IS fucking powerful!) you have NO CHANCE retaining any control or dignity once You fall prey to Princess Chloe.  Expect to be thoroughly emasculated, completely mesmerized, and utterly helpless, and willing to do anything and everything She commands.  But take it from me, there is no better feeling in the world for a loser like me!"

This is an account from a slave who was a classic case in trying to manipulate the Domme and get its way, and be very sly about it. I was on to this from the beginning and specifically didn't give it what it wanted just for that reason. I refuse to ever let the power go to the bottom, and it is something that can be very hard to detect, or be right up front in your face.

I was thinking about new Dommes. I remember My first few days and weeks of being online and talking to slaves. I'm not going to lie or kid Myself. I didn't really know what exactly to do. Sure, I knew how to humiliate anyone, and I enjoyed it. And yeah, I probably sounded really generic in the way I spoke to them at first because I was just kind of feeling things out. I didn't have anyone telling Me what to do, no Domme behind Me saying, "okay, say this now." No, My only contact with the D/s world was the slaves who contacted Me.

I didn't realize then that a lot of them were trying to influence Me to behave a certain way, talk to them a certain way, etc. But since I was so new, I won't lie - I listened to them and instead of just being Myself, I took the slaves advice and subtle pushes in the direction that they wanted Me to act.

I realized what was going on in that respect not too much later on, but it got Me thinking. How many Dommes are a product of the slaves that they first talk to when they are new? How much of those experiences are directly influenced by slaves who try to mold their Dommes into being the Domme that *they* want instead of just accepting the Domme as who She is, and not trying to control Her in any way?

Certainly there is a fine line. And no, I don't treat all of My slaves the same way. The way I treat them depends on many things, but mostly just on how I feel about them. 

The point of this article wasn't necessarily to even give My opinion about this whole subject one way or the other. No, the point of this article is to get both Dommes and subs to think and evaluate their relationships. As a Domme, do you feel as though you have let subs influence your behavior, and the things you do for them even though it is very subtle? And as a slave, do you feel that when you first contact a Domme that you already have an idea of who you want Her to be and exactly how you want Her to treat you? Evaluate these questions, because it may turn out that the relationship you *could* have with the Domme would be more spectacular than anything you ever imagined if you just accepted Her as who She is instead of trying to expect anything more or less.

Teamviewer Domination

I am re-posting articles that I had written for the site Domme Dose. Most of the articles aren't online anymore, so I decided to go ahead and put them up here.

Many subs often ask Me about teamviewer. It is something that I offer, but there are a lot of misconceptions about what it is, is not, and what the benefits are in relation to online domination.

First, let's take a look at what teamviewer is. Teamviewer is a program that allows you to connect to another computer and be able to control that computer as if you were sitting right in front of it. In essence, when I'm connected to a computer via teamviewer it's almost like I'm sitting in front of that computer, doing and controlling whatever I want. It is free to use and download for personal use. (http://www.teamviewer.com)

So, why is this a beneficial tool for online domination? Firstly, it is very useful when you have a fully owned slave. I can log on, check their chat logs, email, make sure they haven't been downloading anything against My will, looking at webpages of other Dommes, etc. I can hop on anytime I want when the computer is fully owned by Me. This means that if the computer is on and running, I can have access to it at any time. I can easily transfer files to and from the computer, go in and give the slave assignments anytime I want, and personalize it however I see fit. 

Nextly, this is online domination - what better way to dominate someone online than through their computer? Teamviewer has a built-in chat, webcam and voice function as well. I can adjust the speakers and make My voice boom as loud as I want while forcing the slave to watch what I do without being able to move their mouse or put any input in (this is a setting that I can enable or disable at will). If I want to really scare a slave, I can blackscreen them. This is when the computer screen goes completely black on their end, while I can still see the desktop and do whatever I please while the slave has no idea what is going on.

It can be used in a large variety of ways, but is certainly not for everyone. It is always important, before you're doing a teamviewer session to first make sure that the Domme is someone that can be trusted. Get to know that Domme before you allow them on your computer. Learn as much as you can about teamviewer before doing a session, because there are many things that can be done that you may not know about. Set your limits ahead of time and be firm about it. If you don't want things posted to your facebook - close it out first!!! Don't be stupid. I can easily lock out your admin account, and make you your own account. I need the password to do this. Do you want all your files to be easily accessed? Are there things you don't want the Domme to find? Like pictures of your children/family. I don't want to see pictures of your kids when I log on to your computer. How fucking irresponsible! Also, if you're using a family computer that is going to be accessed by children, or sitting in your living room - say that! It's your responsibility to ensure that your children are not negatively affected by your sick fucking fetishes. Which, they will be if they go to log on to their home computer and see that the login account is titled, "retarded little fuck," or something like that.

There are many different levels of teamviewer domination. If it's your first time, you definitely want to tell the Domme that. Don't be afraid to ask questions. A good Domme will take the time to answer all of them. A good Domme will abide by limits that are set forth beforehand. It's not a bad thing if it's something you want to learn about, talk about and not rush into at first. 

Next, teamviewer lockdown/full control is something that does take time. I've had a lot of subs get angry when I say that I need to be paid beforehand to ensure that I will get paid. This isn't a big request. With any teamviewer session, it's something that I put My full focus into. I'm not sitting on messenger talking to five other people. I set Myself to away, and take the time to be on the computer as if that's the only computer I'm in front of. Going through files, locking down a computer, etc. can take upwards of two hours if done thoroughly and correctly. Be sure to compensate your Domme accordingly. Also, don't make Her ask you. Dommes should never be beggars, or made to haggle with you about payments. If you can't afford something, you can't have it. Point blank.

Do you want to know what can be done on teamviewer? Use your imagination and play out all the possible scenarios. There's quite a lot, aren't there? Think of all the things lurking on your computer that that Domme might find. Think of all the ways She could manipulate you using type, voice, and cam. The assignments She can leave for you, random things hidden around your computer. Files and contacts can be deleted. 

Dommes - respect your subs limits, and as tempting as it can be to go against them for your own benefit, don't. Be careful when teamviewing, because it can also be dangerous to the Domme. I'm talking, especially, about financial domination. Forcefully taking money/shopping against someones will is called illegal. You can get into some huge shit for doing it. If you're a good Domme, you don't need to put yourself through that. You could come out of it with a lawsuit and/or a vengeful sub who is looking to fuck you over however it can.

subs - know your limits before doing a teamviewer session. If you don't know them when you first contact your Domme, learn them through conversation with Her and make sure She is someone you can trust to respect your limits.

(teamviewer video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUPBLdEmkCw maybe can be put somewhere in the article)

"How much do you want to be controlled on teamviewer?" http://www.kinkbomb.com/How-much-do-you-want-to-be-controlled-on-teamviewer.html

A closer look at consensual blackmail

I am re-posting articles that I had written for the site Domme Dose. Most of the articles aren't online anymore, so I decided to go ahead and put them up here.

Blackmail (noun):

a. Extortion of money or something else of value from a person by the threat of exposing a criminal act or discreditable information.
b. Something of value extorted in this manner.
-  the crime of threatening to reveal embarrassing, disgraceful or damaging facts (or rumors) about a person to the public, family, spouse or associates unless paid off to not carry out the threat. It is one form of extortion (which may include other threats such as physical harm or damage to property). (See: extortion)
...
The crime involving a threat for purposes of compelling a person to do an act against his or her will, or for purposes of taking the person's money or property. (...)In blackmail the threat might consist of physical injury to the threatened person or to someone loved by that person, or injury to a person's reputation. In some cases the victim is told that an illegal act he or she had previously committed will be exposed if the victim fails to comply with the demand.
Although blackmail is generally synonymous with Extortion, some states distinguish the offenses by requiring that the former be in writing.
Blackmail is punishable by a fine, imprisonment, or both.

(link: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/blackmail)

Blackmail. The word alone can have the power to send shivers down some submissives spines, causing their heart to race just at the thought of it. For some, it's something that they would never in their life consider. Or would they? 

Since I got into the online scene, blackmail has been one of those fetishes that has interested Me in many ways. I have experimented with it, have spoken and written about it extensively, and have learned quite a bit on this particularly destructive fetish.

There is a sometimes vague, and sometimes very solid line, between the fantasy and reality of blackmail. I have come across quite a few submissives who do not think that the Domme will actually blackmail them. Despite the Domme advertising the fact that She does blackmail, they are so delusional that they think this is strictly a fantasy-based game. This is extremely dangerous, and honestly - when this happens I think it's really the subs own fault for their stupidity. Never give out personal information over the internet (especially when under the impression that blackmail might be implemented) unless you trust someone fully, wholly, and completely, or if you are very masochistic and seek complete and utter annihilation of your life.

There are also quite a few submissives who I believe enter the contract of blackmail with no intention on following through with anything because they want to test the Domme and see "just how far" She will go. They get a rush at the thought that the Domme will expose them, and will almost taunt the Domme and practically challenge Her to expose them. 

Another type I have come across is the one who feels shameful of themselves, and feel that they must be under constant punishment, that ever-impending looming fear of doom and destruction of their entire lives if payment isn't met at the deadline. A lot of times there is a certain secret that they wish not to be exposed, something they have done, or they are so deeply ashamed of their fetishes/kinks that they put everything on the line under the pretext that there is a possibility of exposure. This category of blackmail candidates, are I feel, the most real. They are terrified of actually being exposed and will do everything they can so that they are not outted to whomever it is they wish to keep their secrets from.

A question I think is important to answer is: When is it okay and not okay to blackmail a willing subject?

I feel that a submissive who seeks the "fantasy" of blackmail, and makes that very clear from the beginning, is not an issue. I am talking about real blackmail. The act of actually taking someones personal information and using it against them, threatening to expose them, to get what you want, and actually implementing said threats.

It is important to always assess the blackmail candidates reasons for wanting to be blackmailed, and make your own judgement calls on whether or not they are in a right state of mind to be blackmailed. This is incredibly difficult to do over the internet, but is still something to keep in mind. I believe that long-term blackmail should only be followed up on after a considerable amount of time getting to know each other, and assessing whether or not this is something that each party is comfortable with.

Here is also a great time to KNOW your limits. I have an incredibly strict limit. That limit is this: if you have children, your fetishes/kinks/financial servitude should in no way, shape, or form, affect them. It is your responsibility as a parent to provide for them, and also protect them from your fucked up fetishes.

Here is something else that can't be stressed enough. Know without a doubt, that the person you are blackmailing is truly who they say they are. If you wish to be blackmailed but aren't willing to present proof you are who you say you are, I believe it is the Dommes responsibility to not continue any further. 

Why is this so important?

What if you are someone who is trying to get someone else to blackmail someone you have a personal vendetta against? This is incredibly dangerous territory. It is also completely illegal. 

This brings us to the legality issue of consensual blackmail. This seems to be a grey area in many ways. You will see "blackmail applications" on such a large percentage of Dommes websites, but have each of these women thought out or informed themselves/their submissives of the legalities of the practice of consensual blackmail, and are they into the fantasy or the reality? In fact, during the process of writing this article I have spent a considerable amount of time looking for legal information specifically pertaining to the legalities of consensual blackmail, and have been unable to find any specific references. I would love to hear from readers about these matters.

18 U.S.C. § 873:
"Whoever, under a threat of informing, or as a consideration for not informing, against any violation of any law of the United States, demands or receives any money or other valuable thing, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than one year, or both."

Next, if performing real blackmail there are three items I believe are essential to ensuring the Dommes safety from any possible legal ramifications that could incur for following through with the agreement of blackmail.

1. A contract

2. Written letter of consent (link to: http://www.wikihow.com/Write-Letter-of-Consent)

3. Photographic proof that the subject is indeed who they say they are

A contract is "a voluntary, deliberate, and legally binding agreement between two or more competent parties. Contracts are usually written but may be spoken or implied..." (source: http://www.businessdictionary.com/definition/contract.html). 

I prefer a written contract. I generally have the slave write the contract out themselves, and then I go over it, make any adjustments, decide on a "buy out" fee, and send it back to them for review. Once they have approved it, they are to print it out, sign it, date it, scan it, and send it back to Me. 

Along with that, I also like to have a photograph of the person, face fully visible, holding a sign that says something along the lines of, "I consent to be blackmailed....." with whatever else I require them to write on it, along with the date. I normally prefer to watch them write the letter out via webcam and hold up the sign so that I have extra proof that they are who they say they are, and it is not photoshopped in any way.

Why go through all this trouble?

There are some sick fucks out there. There are people who, as many of us have seen, have some sort of vendetta against FinDommes. Some have had to deal with stalkers, death threats, and more. I could easily see one of these sickos trying to "take the Domme down" by taking Her to court over a blackmail issue. Having a photo of the person along with the letter of consent, and the signed and dated contract would most likely deter anyone with these intentions from targeting you. If you are thorough enough and cover all your bases, the chances of you dealing with someone that has dark ulterior motives against you is lessened. I also want to add, that is important that the Domme not breach any part of the written contract. 

Let's delve deeper into some of the fun power-play and psychological aspects of blackmail. 

As a Domme, I enjoy power. I enjoy having power over a slaves body, mind, computer, finances, and life. The thought of having a slave by the balls excites Me. This excites many slaves as well. The idea of handing over everything is so taboo, so stupid, idiotic, leaving them completely helpless to My mercy and constantly having to live up to My expectations. No way out. Or, if there is a way out (say, a buy out fee), it would involve extreme personal sacrifice that would be very difficult, or, nearly impossible to accomplish. 

I find that this is much similar to having a submissive in chastity. You control the cock, you control the sub. I have always thought that pairing these two things (blackmail and chastity) would be the absolute ultimate form of controlling a slave. Holding the key to the cock along with all of their personal information, having the ability to expose them at the drop of the hat, or lock up their penis forever.... Imagine how fucked over a slave would be, and how much control and power this would give the Domme. I would enjoy hearing if any submissives or Dommes have had any experience with this deadly combination. 

So - is consensual blackmail morally wrong? 

I don't think so, as long as it is done properly. I think that the real danger lays with newer or unexperienced Dommes (insta's, to use an over-used term), trying to make as much money as possible, as quickly as possible, throwing any and all morals/integrity out the window.

How do you feel about consensual blackmail? Is it morally wrong? And what are your experiences with it?

Looking forward to hearing from readers.

Princess Chloe Cash

How to contact Me: 7 steps to ensure you don't get it wrong

I am re-posting articles that I had written for the site Domme Dose. Most of the articles aren't online anymore, so I decided to go ahead and put them up here.


So often I am greeted with an email, an Instant Message, or some form of contact from a submissive who tells Me they have been following Me for months but have been too afraid to contact Me. I know that I am very intimidating - and yes, you should be intimidated. However, if you are a true submissive slave who wishes to serve Me that should not deter you from initiating first contact. 

I have taken the time to make this guide for Myself and for you. If you follow all the steps in this guide, you are much more likely to be considered as My slave, get My full attention, and most of all - make Me happy. 

I did make this guide for slaves who want to serve *Me*, however it can also be used as a guide to approaching any Domme.

1.  Research

Read everything you can about Me. This should be a no-brainer. I have written extensively about Myself, have posted clips, videos, Mp3's, and more. I am cam verified on several sites, and 100% real. Read about the fetishes I am into, and consider how they sit with you. If you are not into blackmail, that doesn't mean I will blackmail you. Begin to gather in your mind what you are interested in, and begin to make a list of these things. I have written an article called What Kind of slave are you? Hopefully you will find it helpful. 

Follow Me on twitter. I generally update it several times a day. It's easy to see that I am active in the scene, and thus actively online and available. 

2. Intention

Consider what it is you are looking for before contacting Me. Are you looking for a quick wallet rape? A one-time session and possibly more? Are you looking to serve Me full time? Are you looking to be trained as a foot/sissy/cuckold slave? Have you served a Mistress before - why didn't that work out, and what do you want to be different/the same about your past experiences? Note that no two Dommes are ever going to be the same. Know that if you are approaching Me wanting a full-time or even life-long relationship, it should be treated with great care and respect.

3. Honesty

Be honest. No one likes a liar. If you can only afford to tribute XX amount, say so. Don't say that you want to be wallet raped if you can only afford 100 dollars. I think that a lot of you boys will try to talk yourselves up in the hopes that I will give you more time/attention. It doesn't work that way. If you make claims to what you are going to do for Me, I am going to want to see those claims come true. Once I find that you have been all talk and no show, I am going to get annoyed and frustrated. If you were honest from the very beginning, there is a chance that I would have been able to work something else out with you. 

4. Creativity

Be creative. This one is always a bonus. Having a poem prepared, or some other token to show how eager you are to serve and how you truly want to devote yourself to Me is always a very welcomed thing. I love hand written letters, art devoted to Me, tribute websites, and more. I understand a lot of you aren't creative. If not, you can still think of little ways that you can set yourself apart from the others and make Me truly happy and surprised.

5. Tribute

Be willing to tribute. Apparently this really does need to be said. Sad. I don't expect you to hand over your entire wallet upon first contact. However, tributing Me upon first contact puts you at much greater odds for Me to give you My full attention. A lot of the time, the question will be asked: how much shall i tribute?

Ugh.

I don't know - how much can you afford? Want Me to throw out $500 at you? Is that doable for you? Is it not? I would much prefer you say, "may i tribute $100, Princess?" There we go. Now instead of Me having to poke and prod at you, you have initialized the tribute process instead of Me having to sound like I'm begging for cash. I hate prodding at subs for tributes. I want My tributes to flow freely and be something that is desired from My submissives. I'm not going to have you introduce yourself and respond with, "k, send $200 NOW slave!!!!!" I understand that all relationships, and financial relationships, require a certain amount of chemistry.

This does not apply to the fly-by boys who aren't interested in full servitude. If you are just looking to spend, unload your wallet, pamper Me, tribute and spoil Me - GREAT! But if you are not going to be consistent, expect to pay for each session and each time we speak.

I cam verify with each purchase of My yahoo ID. If you buy My yahoo ID, I will get on cam briefly and verify Myself. I might not always be in the position to do that. Maybe I'm fresh out of the shower, or laying in bed in My PJ's. Maybe I just don't feel like getting on cam. Don't act like I am at your beck and call, or that I *OWE* you anything. I don't. I don't owe you shit. Remember that. Remember that My cam verifying for you is a privilege that you should be very thankful for.

Another note on tributing - if you are unable to tribute this moment, but are getting paid in a week - WAIT. I know you are eager, but instead of coming off as a time waster, wait the week until pay day and let that excitement of contacting Me and tributing build up. When you contact Me you can say, "i wanted to contact you last week but knew I wouldn't be paid until today. I've been waiting all week to be able to give you this, Princess." Now that will certainly put a smile on My face.

BONUS: Tribute before contacting Me. It is rare that a sub will go through this trouble. It shows the true mark of one willing to serve if you do this.

6. Respect

Be respectful. This one is talked about but is almost never carried out in the way that I expect and deserve. I roll My eyes every time I get an IM from someone who has never contacted Me before that just says, "hi," or, "hi princess." 

I understand that most of you don't understand why this is bad. Let Me break this down for you.

You are not the only person who is talking to Me. If you want My attention, and you want Me to actually care enough to talk to you say something like.... "Hello Princess Chloe. My name is xxx. I am a foot fetish submissive who is looking to be fully owned. I have read all of your websites, and I have purchased xx amount of clips... I bought your yahoo from kinkbomb/clipvia/niteflirt...." 

Do you see the difference? Instantly I know that you took the time to read THIS article. I also know what kind of slave you are. I know that you purchased My yahoo ID and where. I know that you are familiar with My clips, and I know what it is you are looking for. This is a great starting point because it shows Me that you might be truly interested in serving Me. From there, I will ask you questions, get to know you a little, and you are also permitted to ask Me questions. I suggest having at least 5 prepared before you contact Me. I'm sure there are questions that you can think of to ask Me that you may be curious about. 

7. Ready, set, blast off!

Take the plunge. Using the guide above, you should be ready to contact Me. Now all you have to do is bite the bullet. Maybe you want to send an email with a few questions to determine whether or not there is a chance of true compatibility. That is fine, but after one or two emails I will expect you to purchase My yahoo ID. 

My yahoo ID can be purchased at the following links:

http://www.niteflirt.com/messages/click_payment_button?id=54676025

http://www.kinkbomb.com/Want-My-yahoo-ID-loser.html

http://princesschloecash.clipvia.com/videos/want-my-yahoo-id-loser

What is a slave to do when they want to serve Me but are unable to tribute? Being the fantastic Princess that I am, I have offered some solutions below where you can get My attention, benefit Me, not waste My time, and still serve Me.

Follow Me on twitter. Tweet about Me. Retweet My tweets.

(twitter: princesschloe6)

Start your own blog documenting your addiction to Me. Talk about how you felt when you first saw My pictures/clips/writing, and any and all other feelings. Whenever I post something new, write about it in your blog dedicated to Me. 

I love getting art dedicated to Me, poems, stories, and all sorts of creative things. 

Comment on all My posts, show Me how much you appreciate that I have written them.

http://princesschloecash.blogspot.com/

The Essence of a Woman's Power

I am re-posting articles that I had written for the site Domme Dose. Most of the articles aren't online anymore, so I decided to go ahead and put them up here.

I don't get naked for submissives. I don't get naked for anyone but My boyfriend. In fact, I never plan on having naked pictures/videos of Myself on the internet or anywhere else, ever. 

Am I uncomfortable with My body? On the contrary, I love My body. I celebrate My body every single day, and fully love Myself - every inch of Myself. I do not have low self-esteem in any sense of the word. 

So why not get naked for submissive slaves? There's a possibility that it would make more money, and I certainly like money. 

Here are the reasons why I do not, and will not, ever get naked on cam/video/pics:

I do not believe that submissives are worthy of seeing My body. No, you idiots are only worthy of licking My feet - and that is a priviledge that must be worked HARD for. Haha, you know what? Most of you idiots that serve Me aren't even worthy of THAT. How fucked up is that? Not being even worthy of licking the lowest part of My body. Sad. 

I don't have children but hey, I might someday. How horrible would it be if they, or My family, friends, etc. were cruising the web and BAM - oh look, Chloe is naked for money! Uh, embarrassing and also kind of degrading. I don't degrade Myself.

There are several reasons behind releasing pictures/videos. Making money, and making a submissive very weak - sending them into "subspace" and getting them to that ultimate point of ultimate addiction. Most of the clips I see on kinkbomb (not all, but a whole lot of them) seem like the Domme relys on their body to weaken the submissive/addict them. This is not what I'm about. Sure, I use My body to weaken a submissive. But I do it in conjunction with the power of My mind. My mind is the most powerful asset that I have. I know just what buttons to push. I know exactly how to tease a submissive with My words, while painting mental pictures of what they can't have. This, to Me, is much more humiliating, degrading, effective, creative, addicting, and a whole array of other adjectives that could be used to describe what happens to a submissive when they are under My control. 

The intention of this article is not to diss women who get naked on cam/video. I respect all women, and they can use their bodies however they wish. Their bodies are their bodies and I am in no place to tell them what is and isn't acceptable to do with them. I believe in sexual freedom, and if that is what makes them happy then they should feel free to do what they wish. However, if they are doing it because they think it's the only way they can make money and do not feel sexually liberated/empowered by it, then I find it sad. I do not think that a woman should ever have to get naked and use her body for the sole purpose of supporting herself... even when it is giving the illusion that she is celebrating her power as a woman. 

When I first started recording clips, I must admit that I was unsure of what to do. My style of domination is heavily based on the mind game. No two relationships I have with My submissives are the same. I believe in tailored humiliation to weaken the submissive. Sure, some submissives still weak from being called a loser at random without divulging any facts about themselves that would make them a loser. Fine. They're easy. However, with so many women out there flaunting themselves and their ability to make an "L" with their fingers and call someone a loser for some cash, I think that the humiliation of this is lessened. Instead, I find it more effective to get inside of their head. Why are they the way they are? What makes them less than Me, other than the obvious reasons upon contact? I think that making a good clip has more to do with penetrating deep into the submissives psyche. Yes, My body, My face, My feet, and all aspects of Me are there for the slave to see and further weaken them - but the greatest weakener is the words and infinite knowledge that are coming out of someone so breathtakingly beautiful.

There is nothing sexier, more seductive and dangerous than the powerful mind of a woman. Especially a woman who knows how to take control. Who loves power. Pure, sheer, utter, brilliant dominance. It's easy to find the naked body of a woman online. Just go to a porn site - the internet is drowning in easily accessible porn. A brilliant and powerful mind of a woman on the other hand - one that is able to easily take charge of your body and mind... Now that is a rare treasure. One to be worshipped and never taken for granted. 

Unfortunately, many slaves do take their Domme for granted - or even the chance at serving. Any time you, as a slave, have the chance to serve a powerful Domme... it should be treated as the utmost privilege. A real Domme that gives you the chance to get to know Her on any level, interact, speak with you, and the possibility of servitude, is indeed a rare and difficult thing. That is why, I believe, there are so many slaves who drift from Domme to Domme for years on end, looking for that one spark. The same can be said for vanilla relationships. People date, see if there is chemistry there, and if not they go their separate ways (sometimes in dramatic ways). The same applies to a D/s relationship, even a financial one.

If I have learned anything about most financial slaves, it is that they are not willing to open their wallets up to just anyone calling themselves a Domme. This is also a misconception that a lot of women have about financial domination. It is a craft, and to be a Financial Domme you must have a love for it. Building a financial D/s relationship takes time. The slave must feel that certain rush, thrill, excitement, and submission when handing their money over to their Dominant. They want to see how their gifts and tributes are affecting the Dommes life. Seeing her with their gifts or tributes hits such a deep nerve with so many, and feeds that addiction to want to do more.

This is true of not only financial slaves, but all slaves in general. Hell, relationships just work this way. There are always two sides to any relationship. A true foot slave will want to ensure all aspects of its Dommes feet are truly taken care of, truly worshipped and pampered in every way that they can. A true Domme will love that they are being worshipped in the way they truly deserve. Enticing the foot slave with how relaxed, how soft, how wonderful their feet are... how comfortable the new shoes they were given are, or how sexy they make her feet look... adding to their foot slaves addiction. 

To sum up this article, a woman's mind is always more powerful than her body. Even if it is the body that weakens you, there is usually a trigger behind that weakening that is brought about by the psychology of the mind behind the body. If not, then are you really submissive? Or just weak for a womans body and nothing else? 

I believe in the worship and empowerment of women as a whole. This means bowing down to all aspects of a woman's personality, mind, body, and soul. It is all of these things combined that bring about the true power and weakening factors of a woman.

Readers, feel free to add your opinions here. Dommes - what do you find is the most powerful part of yourself to weaken a submissive? And submissives - what about a Domme do you find truly weakens you the most? If you are a foot fetishist - is it solely (no pun intended) a woman's feet, or is it the combination of a woman's powerful mind *and* feet that truly brings you to your knees?

What is Financial Domination?

I am re-posting articles that I had written for the site Domme Dose. Most of the articles aren't online anymore, so I decided to go ahead and put them up here.

Financial domination. Few people outside of Domme Dose and other findom communities have heard about it, and those who have, often misunderstand it. Wild stories circulate in mainstream media, and even many in the findom scene have a warped view of what it involves.

In this article I will attempt to clarify what financial domination is, what it is not, look at different practices, and different types of slaves and dommes. Send this article to your vanilla friends - if you dare! You may also learn a few things yourself.

Many people find financial domination difficult to comprehend because they can’t imagine a fetish relationship where the primary focus is on giving money and gifts. I too found this strange at first. But that is exactly what financial domination is: domination of a submissive who has a fetish for giving money to a dominant.

Submissives with a financial fetish are not always wealthy. Some are, but others have average incomes. To some finsubs, a $100 tribute is a lot, to others it’s just getting started.

Financial domination often comes integrated with other fetishes. For instance, a financial slave may have a cuckold fetish. They love giving the dominant money to pay for dates or vacations with her boyfriend. A financial slave with a foot fetish may want to buy shoes and send money for pedicures.

Don’t confuse financial dommes with sugar babies, who are expected to be sweet and loving towards the sugar daddy. Many sugar babies discover financial domination and think that it is virtually the same thing, but the “domination” part of “financial domination” makes it something else entirely.

Let’s start by taking a look at your typical money slave. This is someone who strictly has a fetish for giving money (tributing) to a superior female.

What arouses money slaves most of all is often the idea that the woman they are tributing has to do little or no work to obtain money. They love to see images of the woman looking completely relaxed, holding large sums of cash. They have little desire to see the woman naked, and this could even be a huge turn off for them.

Money slaves come in different forms. There are slaves who enjoy it when the domme demands money. Others prefer to surprise the domme and don’t like demands being made.

There are long-term and short-term money slaves. Long-term money slaves tend to stick with one dominant and give her any extra cash they have each week/day/month. Some will do extreme things to obtain more money, like going into debt, finding another job, or selling their possessions.

Some long-term money slaves go even further. They give the dominant all of their financial information (income, bills, etc.) and the dominant then controls and decides how much the slave is allowed to spend for themselves, the rest all going to her. In my experience many financial slaves may fantasize about this sort of situation, but only a few will actually take it to that level.

The short term money slave follows a more irregular pattern, with occasional bursts of spending. He will find himself becoming aroused from thinking about handing his money to a dominant. He may then start by tributing small amounts, building up to larger numbers. Each tribute makes him feel more aroused, until he loses all self-control. Before the night is over he may have given a large percentage of his money to the dominant.

These slaves often seek out a different dominant each time, or cycle between a few regular ones. Dommes refer to these as “drive by money slaves.” Many such slaves feel shame and regret afterwards. They may cancel sent gifts, try to reverse payments, and tell themselves that it’s the last time.

Some even become addicted to financial domination. They will feel happy during a session/money draining, and then feel horrible about themselves afterward. Just like gambling addicts and alcoholics, they may take precautions in an attempt to limit themselves - like making their funds unavailable to be spent online or over a certain limit. Sometimes they will give their wife/girlfriends control of their finances. When they relapse they freak out about having to explain where the money went. There are financial slaves of this nature who have trapped themselves in this same pattern for years, some even decades.

Long-term financial slaves can also get into trouble, but this depends on the agreements made, and the demands made by the dominant. Long-term slaves often have regular contact with their dominant, and will be able to hear about what their money was spent on. It excites them to see their dominant living luxuriously.

It’s important to note that money slaves tend to be immediately turned off if they feel that their dominant actually needs the money. They want to be used by her, to give her more on top of what she has already. They don’t want to feel as though their dominant relies on their money to make ends meet. They want her to live luxuriously and spend their money frivolously, without a second thought.

Another type of financial slave, and the most prone to trouble is the financial slave with a blackmail fetish. Let’s take another look again at the short-term slave who gets trapped in the addictive pattern of spend/happy - comedown/unhappy - afterwards/guilt.

They may begin to fantasize about handing over personal information that could ruin their social lives, like humiliating photos of themselves, along with contact information for their wife or boss.

Most never take this further than fantasy, but some go as far as drawing up blackmail contracts with a domme. This can be extremely dangerous when the dominant is inexperienced (or is exceptionally ruthless and evil) or very new to D/s. It can also have legal consequences for both the domme and the money slave. The dominant should make a good assessment of the individual situation (including the mental state of the submissive) before actually becoming involved with a blackmail agreement.

For instance, in rare cases someone claiming to be a blackmail slave may use a dominant in attempt to blackmail someone other than themselves. It is extremely important that the domme ensures that the person is in fact who they say they are.

There are many types of financial dommes as well. Many see financial domination strictly as a way to make easy money. Others may look at it as their job, some as their lifestyle, and some as their own fetish.

For every successful financial domme, there are countless who will never make anything close to a living doing it.

Some women sell video clips on clip stores like Kinkbomb and Clips4sale, or pay-to-view mails on sites like Niteflirt. I’ve noticed that these sites attract different types of financial slaves. Slaves who prefer to give tributes during a cam session gravitate towards clip stores. Those who prefer to just hand over money and get nothing in exchange will usually go to a site like Niteflirt. Here they can call an ignore line, or buy previously made pay-to-view emails. They can spend hundreds or thousands of dollars without the domme ever interacting with them.

People who are unfamiliar with financial domination often misunderstand what it involves, because they overlook the domination/submission aspect of it.

Financial slaves are submissives. They regard the domme as superior to them, feeling that the domme deserves the money more than they do. They want her to live a perfect life of luxury, where her every whim and desire are met (usually while laughing at what a pathetic tool the sub is).

I’ve found that some slaves prefer to serve younger/inexperienced dommes because they are afraid of the psychological powers an experienced domme can have over them. Others seek new dommes because they feel that they can help to educate the domme about their fetish, and help her acquire as many money slaves as possible. They can be highly flighty, and tend to seek out 18-20 year old dommes, usually serving anywhere from a few months up to a year before finding another.

Some financial slaves “slut,” or, secretly tribute other dommes on the side to satisfy their own cravings. Some will try to “top from the bottom,” or, try to get the domme to satisfy their wants in manipulative ways so they can get off while maintaining the illusion of having no power over her.

The type who seek out younger and inexperienced dommes tend to be more manipulative in this sense. Often they do not realize this, and convince themselves that they are helping the domme and not being selfish.

Some women have a genuine fetish for having slaves serve them, while others find that they are just good at using slaves for their benefit (but don’t really care about it). Both types are desired by money slaves. To some it can be arousing that the domme is only using them for money, while others like to know that the domme enjoys D/s.

I cannot write from personal experience when it comes to real-time financial domination, but I can write of the most common fantasies I hear of from money slaves. They will often fantasize about meeting the domme at an ATM and just letting her withdraw what she wants from their bank account, or meeting her, handing her cash/credit cards while she laughs at how easy it is for her to use him.

Sometimes financial domination is incorporated into forced intoxication. Here a domme will instruct the sub to become intoxicated, and demand tributes that get larger as the sub becomes more intoxicated. The sub enjoys “getting stupid” for her. They find that their submissive side is at its peak when they are inebriated. Their rational side disappears as their world-view narrows, and they are completely unaware of anything but the domme and their desire to please her.

I mentioned earlier that some form addictions to financial domination. This in itself is also a fetish. Basically, the domme will offer “financial domination therapy/recovery,” and will roleplay that they care about the sub and want to help them - doing this while taking their money, pretending that each payment is a step to recovery.

I find it amusing how judgmental people can be about financial domination. When financial domination is covered in mainstream media, readers often react with disgust. They may understand and accept the most perverted of fetishes, but financial domination makes them wary.

I spoke with someone who had a fetish for golden showers, but was disturbed by financial domination. So, getting your face pissed on is more normal than wanting to give money to beautiful, intelligent and superior women? It would be easier to understand for many if the Dommes were being paid to perform sexual favors.

But that’s just it! The women don’t need to exploit their bodies or do anything they don’t enjoy to make money. I explained all of this to a friend the other day who had never heard of it. They said that it was absolutely brilliant. The women who are successful financial dommes are brilliant, truly.

We are strong, intelligent, beautiful and dominant women who have realized that we can make money (and a lot of it) by exploiting the weaknesses of submissives who want to hand over their cash while we laugh at them, and if we feel like it, humiliate them and allow them glimpses of our beauty, intelligence, and the superior lives we lead.

Most of the information in this article may be old news to many of the regular readers on Domme Dose. However, I know there is much that can be added to this! The purpose of this article was to describe financial domination in a way that was as unbiased as possible (it’s nearly impossible to be unbiased for Me on this topic, but so it goes), and so that it could be understood in simple terms by someone who is unfamiliar with it.

Post your own experiences with financial domination in the comments section, or anything that you would like to add on top of this article.